My wife and I are survivors of the very toxic/high-control religious culture of the Independent Fundamental Baptist movement.

For the first 18 years of our marriage, we devoted every aspect of our lives to the church. In 2019, I resigned from my position as a senior pastor of a small church in central Illinois. We not only walked away from the ministry, but we also walked away from Christianity altogether.

It all started at a very young age, when I began questioning what I was being taught by my church and private school. It wasn't until I became a teenager, that I began to study the Bible for myself. After 30 years of deconstructing, reconstructing, questioning, doubting, searching, and discovering, my pursuit of the truth led me away from church, ministry, and religion.

Leaving our church, ministry, and religion was the most painful decision we had ever made together. It was also the most wonderful decision we could ever make as it opened the gates for us to explore the vast, beautiful, and pathless landscape of true spirituality while not being confined by any religious text, dogma, or creed - a landscape of healing, self-discovery, and connection.

If you are stuck in toxic/high-control religion or have left your toxic/high-control religion and don't know what to do now…

💙 You are not alone. I am here for you. This is a safe space. Let's talk. 💙